Failing is something frowned upon. The term failure brings images of somebody who just didn’t quite make it, or somebody that tried but didn’t try hard enough, as Americans used to say, a loser.
I don’t understand how come people fear failure so much? But I think that It is because if you fail once, it looks bad, however, if you fail twice, nobody will trust your judgment anymore. But did you realize the people who failed aren’t the losers? Is that possible?
Yes, because at least these people tried. They at least gave it a shot. They got up, risked failing but did it anyway. They faced their fears. Perhaps they didn’t win but they also didn’t die regretting. History might not glorify as well as put down.
What’s Worse Than Failing? In my opinion inaction, doing nothing, never starting, stagnation, all talk no action, being in the comfort zone (possibly forever.) Those who are worse off than those who have failed, are the ones who are too afraid to even begin.
History never picks on these individuals because there are so many of them. You see them everywhere. They’re the ones who tell you what they want to do, how they wish they could have more, how they wish they could follow their dreams – but the moment you ask them “why don’t you go for your dreams?” they’ll fire back with awesome excuses or blank promises of doing something about it one day.
Yeah it’s simple to pick on the guy who tried but failed miserably. However the man who died along with his dreams unfulfilled because of inaction is a bigger loser. Yep you heard that right. A bigger loser than a failure. I admire failures, not because they’ve failed but because at least they stuck their necks out to give something a red hot go. Whatever venture it is, it’s difficult risking it all for your goals and dreams. It’s challenging getting out of your comfort zone or security blanket and wade into unknown waters. Majority of people want the safe route, they’ll be satisfied with mediocrity rather risk trying and failing.
Why? Because failing is scary. I was afraid of failing. Our society has made failing a label left for the unfortunate. But seriously, the only failure you need to worry about is your salvation. Apart from that, it’s OKAY to fail provided that you give it all you’ve got.
Those who failed took the courage to go for what they wanted. It’s hard if the odds are stacked against you. And if you manage to succeed then fantastic! If not, congratulations because you did something interesting with your life rather than sit there talking about it. People who have tried need to observe that doing something is preferable to doing NOTHING. Nothing could be accomplished if everyone decided that doing something hard but rewarding, taking a risk or going for their dreams is too expensive, too difficult, or too time consuming. Few people realize that successful people are also failures.
Those who have were able to lose weight and stay slim have had moments of failure where they regained a few pounds. If they had quit, they wouldn’t be the shape they are today.
People who have wonderful relationships with their spouse or family have worked hard to maintain these bonds. They made sure they were reliable and trustworthy. They kept their promises. They were there for the people they care about. They might have had to make compromises or sacrifices for these people. They didn’t give up on their marriages because they had a disagreement or because it’s “too hard” to make it work. In any case, they worked on their relationship and didn’t take the ones they love for granted.
Do you know what’s the difference between success and failure? The difference is a pretty fine line. Successful people don’t give up on their dreams. They remain persistent till the end. They failed, picked themselves back up and went back in. They did what was required to achieve their success – even when it was too hard. Which would you choose? A life of mediocrity, watching others achieve their dreams or living your life to the fullest, doing what you’ve always aspired to do and casting your fears aside?
Society rarely celebrates failure. You don’t ever hear the failures of the successful. You don’t read about the work involved, the years of punishing effort, the poverty, the depression and all the downsides of going for your dreams.
It may sound horrible but it means success doesn’t come by without effort. It also shows, failing does not mean you’re not a success or that it won’t lead to success. Learning through failure is one thing that no text book can equip you for.
I use to be scared of failing. I didn’t tell people what I’ve failed in – in fear that they may question my judgment or skill. I worried that they would think history would repeat itself. I’ve seen my own father fail dismally and that fear of failing was ingrained within me even more. No one told me it’s okay to fail and that failure can still lead to success if one does not give up. If I could talk to my younger self, I would tell him that “it’s okay to fail and you’ll be okay. Just pick yourself back up and continue.
Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything than what I was, and began to direct all my energy to finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one area where I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realized, and I was still alive.
I also realized that failure ought to be celebrated as a temporary stumble to success. Even if that eventual success resides in a different industry, venture or method. It dawned on me that the real losers are the ones who never try. The ones who fear failing so much that they don’t realize they’ve failed already because they’ve never begun. And that, to me, is worse than failing.
Don’t just sit on the sidelines wondering, go out there and begin. If you’ve already started, don’t fear failing, for it could be a sign you’re almost there – so don’t give up on yourself.
It is impossible to live without failing at something. Unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all. In which case, you’ve failed by default. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift.
Be not afraid keep it up!
Adapted from: http://guidewhois.com/2011/04/whats-worse-than-failing/